Small Joys, Big Struggles: Staying Present in a Distracted World

The past shapes who we are today. Can ignoring it really help? Memories—whether of mistakes or triumphs—are like medals from battles we’ve fought. Instead of running from them, why not embrace them? We should be okay with reminiscing the past, while also daydreaming about the future. In my opinion, realizing the fact that you are not in the present plane is an indication of self-awareness.

Shutting off my phone, even briefly, gives me moments of clarity, though it’s not easy. App timers help, but I still get distracted by multiple devices that have become foundational. The struggle to stay present is real, and I’m constantly learning how to improve.

We’ve all been advised to live in the present and not dwell on the past or worry about the future. This idea promises a better quality of life by helping us appreciate what we have. But how easy is it to truly live in the moment?

Being present isn’t always grand or complicated. Sometimes, it’s about loving what you do or enjoying the company of those you care about. For me, cooking dinner while listening to podcasts lifts my spirits. Though I don’t work out regularly, even a week of light exercise energizes me. Spending time with pets or visiting pet cafés helps me slow down and reconnect with reality.

Once we learn to live for ourselves, accepting the challenges of the past and future becomes easier. But it's not a straightforward process—society’s expectations often add to the pressure. We need our own benchmarks, not ones imposed by others. Have you ever tried fitting others into your personal standards? It often leads to disappointment.

Many internet guides suggest reducing screen time, practicing mindfulness, or engaging in creative activities. While these sound helpful, it’s not always that simple. The past can feel ingrained in our minds, resurfacing when similar situations arise. Pretending these emotions don’t exist can sometimes lead us into toxic positivity. Not everyone finds peace in meditation or strict mindfulness routines—and that’s okay.

Similarly, it’s easy to say we shouldn’t think about the future, but isn’t some level of anxiety necessary to push us forward? The real challenge is knowing how much future-planning is too much. I believe it’s fine until it reaches a point where you want to escape everything, unsure of where life is heading.

But yes, many days feel like I’m running on autopilot—checking tasks off my to-do list. Those rare moments, like sipping coffee in peace without a notification popping up, feel like blessings. Technology makes it harder to be present. Social media and external validation keep us chasing benchmarks. How often do we stop to accept failure without self-criticism?

For me, small pleasures keep me grounded. Ice cream on a hot summer day feels like a victory. Even catching a cold after indulging doesn’t change that joy. In winters, instead of switching to hot chocolate, I embrace winter’s beauty—the fallen leaves and quiet snowfall remind me to slow down.

What helps you stay present? If I discover more easy ways to practice presence, I’ll share them with you. Let’s keep exploring together. 

The battle is still on.